What a vagina isn't

How can one man own a vagina? a boy once asked of me on an obscure sex forum.

He meant well, I’m sure. Like most progressive men these days, he wanted to show women that he was Not Like Those Guys!

He’s a good man, open minded, understanding, compassionate, tender, and willing to let her (the woman in his life) live however she wanted, in whatever ways brought her pleasure.

So he says.

When guys say this, it’s like they think that pussy can be leased out all by itself. Like we can reach down there and detach it. We’re handing it out like a fleshlight!

I get what he’s trying to say. Sex is just sex, when you get down to it. Tab A goes into Slut B and then there’s some thrusting and hopefully orgasms come out the other side.

I don’t know about that, me myself personally.

These sugar walls come with the whole package. If you want to stick your dick in a woman (legally and morally), you’re getting her whole body, head to toe.

Not only that, you’re getting her emotions. Her history. Her soul, if you’re a spiritual type of person.

Sex is NEVER a mechanical act of putting the guy part inside the girl parts.

When well-meaning liberal guys say that they can’t own a vagina, they’re right. But they kinda miss the point of what it means to be sexual. It’s about bonding. Yes, it feels great. Okay it feels fuuuuuckn great lol

Most of us women don’t see sex as a totally physical event though. To let a guy inside our bodies takes a lot of trust and a lot of attraction. There’s a mood. We have to be in the right place mentally and emotionally.

It’s not just about being penetrated by an erection.

Guys with sharing fantasies use this as a rationalization. Oh, she’s just getting some dick, it’s not like she’s cheating on me.

Maybe she is or maybe she isn’t.

But I can tell you this, not many women can keep the emotions out of it for long. If she’s getting with him regularly, she’s got feelings for him. They may not be relationship-breakers. You might even be cool with that. You might have the kind of relationship that can work on that level of connection that goes past the “new guy tingles” and sexual contact.

Which is all fine.

But it’s pretty silly to say that you “don’t own her vagina”. Her fun-tunnel is the last thing you’re worried about when she’s getting sexually interested with other people.

Making it about the vag misses the point.

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~ Bella Blaze

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