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🔞 MATURE CONTENT WARNING! 🔞
There’s nothing heavier than R-rated, but if you’re not 18+ and comfortable with frank discussions of unconventional sexuality, this is a gentle nudge to be on your way. 😉
Welcome to Ablaze With Bella!
This post answers questions frequently asked about the dark, ugly, real side of love, dating, and sex. The stark truth about male and female desire. The week after the Happily Ever After when the tingles wear off.
I write about infidelity, which is the ultimate horror and, for some, the ultimate thrill.
What is this newsletter about?
In one line: dark fantasy and romance, the twisted-up, fucked-up parts of sex and love when they cross wires with violence and crime.
The terrible, awful parts of love, sex, and romance that we all know but can’t talk about in polite company.
It’s about the evils and dark allure of the cheating woman.
Why infidelity?
Men and women cheat, in different ways, for different reasons. Affairs, both romantic and physical, are as common as as air and water. Monogamy’s the scare resource.
When a partner cheats, it’s always a terrible, heart-breaking, life-changing experience.
Cheating is like a horror movie. Some people fold under the pressure. Some rise to the occasion. And some, strange as they are, become obsessed with the fanged monster stalking them in the shadows.
Club Blaze is interested in the people that get their fix from the fear, shock, and stark terror of an unfaithful partner.
Why would I want this?
It’s like asking why people like black coffee, skydiving, free climbing, or shooting up heroin on a mattress in the back alley.
There’s no accounting for taste. If you get it, you get it. If you don’t, I’m not here to convince you.
If you are into it?
I won’t tell you that your taste is a good thing.
Infidelity, affairs, polyamory, and open marriages are ways of playing with relationship fire. 🔥
You’re risking an explosion, a raging brush-fire, or even a life-ruining nuclear meltdown.
I’m straight with you: I don’t think most couples have any business playing with third parties, group sex, or open-marriage arrangements.
Lots of couples find themselves excited by the fantasy, one way or another. As far as this author is concerned, that’s where it should stay: fantasy.
But that’s not always true…
Who is it for?
The words here are written for men and women who might elsewhere be interested in “cuckolding” or the “hotwife” fetishes.
If you’re not down with the jargon, those are sexual kinks where a married and usually-monogamous couple gives the wife a “hall pass” for sex outside their bedroom.
The hotwife fantasy is not swinging, an open marriage, or cuckolding.
Cuckolding brings along negative associations, and tends to focus on male desires for humiliation, submission, and emasculation.
Open marriages and polyamory are a different kind of arrangement. Swinging is sort of similar, but the full-on partner swap falls into a different category.
The hotwife fantasy zeroes in on female sex and sexuality.
Hotwifing, sometimes called stag and vixen fantasy, focuses on the sexual experience of a wife involved in carnal relations with men besides her husband (or primary partner). This is typically brought up by the husband, who finds himself getting excited about the idea.
Sometimes the wife brings it up, but for a variety of reasons that’s not a good sign (and it’s unlikely to go down well with an unsuspecting husband).
The hotwife relationship is for the benefit of both partners, and focused on mutual sexual fulfillment.
What I write here is not for or against these fantasies and kinks. I’m more interested in exploring the psychological tension and motivations of couples that fall into these situations, and how they respond.
My writing that explores these ideas is “infidelity erotica”.
Who it IS NOT for
I’ll say it again to make sure I’m clear:
Most couples should NOT act on this fantasy in real life.
Even if both of you find it kinky and exciting.
The super-heated excitement of the idea in your mind short-circuits the thinking parts of your brain.
The internet’s fake porno-fied content and made-up reddit posts create a serious case of Porn Brain in some men that leads them to believe this is something they should do.
You can’t think straight with the “little head”.
Which means husbands and wives are not considering the many downsides of non-exclusive sexual relationships.
With that warning in mind, there’s nothing to lose by having that discussion.
Why are some men so interested in such a taboo and socially-unacceptable idea? Why are couples playing with something so wrong, which has the risk of splitting them up for good? Why do women agree to it — or resist it?
Why do people who would never in a million years hop in bed with a person besides their spouse find the hotwife fetish captivating, compelling, and exciting?
That’s what we’re up to.
When and Where
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Upgrade to a paid member and you’ll get access to the archive of short stories, AMA threads for your questions, and access to premium content and posts.
How do we do it?
We keep things laid back and discreet around here — I shouldn’t have to explain why! 😉
Raunchy is expected. So is decency to your hostess and the other members. Don’t be a jerk and you can stay as long as you like.
I encourage my readers to send me messages with your questions, stories, or comments.
I know this is a tough situation, loaded up with heaps of anxiety, shame, and guilt.
I want you to know that your privacy is my duty. Anything you send me, by email, DM, or comments here, is 100% confidential.
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xoxo
~Bella Blaze 😘
PS - I like it when my readers get more people involved in our little kinky kult. I like it so much that I reward referrals with free stuff. 😇