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The pain is real though
Yesterday I read a sad story over on reddit.
It was about a couple that had been married for several decades, in their 50s.
The husband wrote that they had gone for like 20 years with a dead bedroom. Mostly on account of his slothful physique.
He decided to get himself in shape, lots all the weight, and found that he rekindled their sex life.
All seemed great.
Until his wife went off on a trip with her sisters.
Then he gets this call from his wife.
What she tells him next is pretty sad.
She confesses to him that she ended up sleeping with another couple. That’s right, a man and a woman. They got drunk together at the bar, she went back to the couples’ room, and the other wife encouraged her to get with her husband.
Then the next morning, her sister catches her sneaking out of the couples’ hotel room!
No wonder she confessed. She was about to get told on.
This guy was upset big time, as you would be. Even with all the tears and apologies and “I was drunk” excuses, he wasn’t having it. It sounds like they’re splitting up for good.
But you know what?
She’s done it before. Guaranteed. Twenty years of a dead bedroom with her husband and you believe this is the first and only time she’s cheated? Right when hubby loses all the weight and they start having sex again? It’s not believable.
You know the thing though… even though a lot of men would be okay with this behavior… even encourage it… there are still a lot of faithful men and women out there. They don’t want a bar of unfaithfulness, even if it’s only occasional sexual trysts.
And that is perfectly fine. Not everybody is built for that kind of relationship.
If you’re going to fiddle around in a happy and functioning marriage, you can’t do it by sneaking around behind your partner’s back. Cheating is cheating, no matter who fantasizes about what.
Respect for your partner has to be #1 in any romantic relationship, monogamous or otherwise.
Marriages don’t work when one partner or both partners are narcissists who put their own pleasure and entitlement above the other person.
But when you do care about each other, and build that trust between you… you can do almost any dirty, nasty, rule-breaking thing you want… 😉
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~ Bella Blaze
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