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She can't be 'like that' when she's married
You ask me what’s the fundamental problem facing a man with lusty desires for consensual non-monogamy?
It is NOT, I repeat not, “convincing” his wife or gf to step out on him.
If only it were that simple.
Tick all the boxes on your checklist and PRESTO she hops into bed with that well-endowed Division 1 athlete she matched on Tinder.
Men, I love ‘em, but they always want to solve problems.
Women’s sexual feelings don’t work that way. She’s moved by her emotions. Those don’t work like wiring diagrams.
Your problem isn’t so much what you’re doing.
It’s not even how you’re acting.
No. The secret to “convincing” your woman lies much deeper than her surface motivations.
You’ve got to look deep inside her.
No, not down there!
I’m talking about in her head and her heart, perv.
Here’s what I mean.
You always hear guys complaining about how she “used to be” all slutty but after they got married she barely puts out twice a month.
Like I saw on reddit the other day, this guy is dating a girl casually… while she is also power-banging a male “friend”. She won’t go further than kissing Lover Boy, telling him that she wants things to last with him, so they’re not having sex yet.
Yeah, I know, guys. It looks bizarre and strange. I’m telling you, it’s woman-logic and in her mind it makes total sense.
To a guy, the sex and the feeling come in a package. Us gals are way better at separating them. Many ladies are so indoctrinated into monogamy culture that sex “isn’t done” in the context of relationships.
Which is why these timid guys feel left out while she’s pile-driving a thug she has no intention of sticking with… and then cools off to room temperature once the ring goes on her finger.
In her head, sex is dirty and love is pure and chaste.
It’s messed up, but that’s how it is.
I always tell my boys, you’ve got to understand this.
If you’re set on monogamy, you have to know this to understand the forces at work in her head and between her legs. (I mean, if you WANT to have boring sex…)
If you do want to play with exciting non-monogamy, you still need to understand this.
If her head-space is “married woman” and “good wife”, no way will she act this out. Even if she slutted her way through her 20s, she is “not like that” now. You won’t talk your way out of that one.
There’s lots of ways you can act on this, though. “No” doesn’t have to be the end of the conversation.
I could tell you how. But that would spoil all the fun. 😆
Maybe soon… but it won’t be out here in public.
Fun-haters made me put all the good stuff in the “back room”. I’ll tell you more about that soon.
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~ Bella Blaze
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