Imagine you’re trying to light a fire in the stove in the middle of winter to heat up the room. Only, you drop a whole can of lighter fluid, a candle falls on it, and you end up setting the house on fire.
You got what you wanted. The room’s warm alright LOL 😂
It didn’t go how you wanted, though. Not even close to your plan.
Messed up, right?
That’s how a lot of these open marriages and consensual non-monogamy deals work out in real life.
The husband gets it in his head to watch some irl porn starring his attractive wife.
She’s not into it for whatever reason. Doesn’t want to feel like a slut, doesn’t want to risk her safety, doesn’t want to do it because he wants it LOL
Then one day she’ll meet a guy. Could be a co-worker, could be a random dude at a bar or a wedding.
One thing after another and she finds herself panties down, legs spread, “entertaining” her new friend.
Husband didn’t want that. Not at all what he fantasized about happening.
She didn’t do it for him. She blames the moment (even though women who do this ALL do it for a reason…)
That’s plain cheating, is what it is.
Maybe that’s part of the fantasy for you. Maybe you’re the type who would say you’re okay with it because you only care about the hook-up angle.
It’s still cheating.
She disrespected you and your relationship together.
A lot of women now are unable to process their own sexuality with honesty.
She lives in this illusion where she sees herself as a Good Girl.
He wants me to sleep with other guys? Yuck.
But when the opportunity comes up… with that ex who got away… the sexy new co-worker… that hot guy who danced with her on girl’s night out… she’s ready to play.
She’ll be a slut for another guy, while pretending to play nice for her husband or bf.
She won’t do it because he asks her… but she’ll do it the second that it suits HER desires.
If you’re into that, that’s cool. You be you.
It’s gross, though. You can’t trust women who behave that way.
A lot of guys cannot tell the difference between a woman who loves them and “sleeps around” for his pleasure and for THEIR pleasure as a couple…
… And a woman who is a selfish bee-itch that only cares about herself.
If you’re a boy, watch yourself around that second type. She will crush your heart, or worse.
If you find that first kind of girl… do what it takes to keep her in your life. A lady who loves you so much that she’ll go against her “internalized monogamy script” to bang other guys because you like it… she’s big-time into you.
She’s a keeper.
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Thanks doll! 😙
You really give it a good prospective there is a difference between having a total committed relationship and communicating what you both Want but not being open with one another is cheating and can destroy what you have Be honest and COMMUNICATE what our bothwant