Would you ask your girlfriend to do prn on the first date?
Fellas are screwing up big-time by rushing to the front and skipping the line
If a man approaches 100 women and asks for sex, the story goes that he might get one or two of them to say “okay!” with a smile and a spring in her step.
While that sounds like good news to the thirsty young man hoping to wet his whistle, there’s a problem.
To find that one happy taker, our brave boy must walk through a landmine of serious consequences from all the ladies who aren’t so thrilled by his proposal.
Most women approached in that way will search however awkwardly for the nearest exit. But some more spirited types could turn more assertive. And that’s not factoring in any nearby male relations who might look dimly on such.
While there’s a lot to learn from the law of averages — the more shots you take, the more likely you hit the bulls-eye — it’s just as important to consider the other 98 or 99 that you left hanging.
Some of those women would have given our fellow the time of day if he asked them to dinner. Not all 100, but more than one.
He’d get even more takers if he’d asked for a 30-minute meet-up over coffee.
It’s no different if you’re a frustrated husband wondering how you can bring up your kinky fantasy to your wife.
Men feel anxious and guilty about revealing their fantasy to their women because they’re asking for too much too soon.
Women say no for the same reason as the average woman approached for sex on the street says “Eww no way!”
You don’t give up on dating because she won’t drop her panties for a total stranger she doesn’t know.
What do you do instead?
The answer is found in the coffee date.
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Meeting up for a coffee isn’t a big ask.
You’re meeting somewhere public, usually in daylight hours, with no expectation you’ll hang around longer than it takes to drink a cup of espresso.
You might hit it off. If you don’t? You haven’t lost any major investment of time, energy, or commitment to the other person.
Look around at men fumbling their way into this fantasy life and you’ll find two big mistakes.
Big Mistake 1 - Leaping straight to the commitment with no foreplay.
You can’t bake a cake without mixing the ingredients first.
You can’t mix the ingredients if you don’t know what they are, or how much of them you need.
There’s an order to do things.
If you skip the line, you don’t get the result.
People can adapt to almost anything. What scandalizes and shocks your wife upon hearing your fantasy may consume her with lust in three years’ time.
But she’s got to go through that process in her own time and on her own terms.
You can’t force that and you can’t force her to do it any faster. Or at all.
Those men who believe they can supply her with the enough reasons or a perfect argument for why she should hop in bed with other guys are going to fail.
Big Mistake 2 - Forcing your real life to fit a prn-brained “progression”
When you look at a map, there’s no directions included.
A map doesn’t tell you where you want to go. It can only show you how to get there.
Exploring consensual non-monogamy comes in many colors and flavors.
There is no one right or wrong answer that fits everyone.
This idea of a “progression” is a mind-parasite common on reddit. They tell you that you’re supposed to progress into being an effeminate, weak, caged, chaste, submissive cuckold to a domineering wife who works as an escort, domme, and porn-star along with her regular full-time job.
Reddit is full of sad, pitiable, self-hating men who write fap-fiction about things that never happened. Don’t take your cues from redditors unless you want to blow up your relationship and your life.
There is no progression. There is only what he likes, what she likes, and what the two of them are comfortable with.
For most couples, the fantasy all by itself is enough to keep them happy. They shouldn’t try to push further.
For the couples that suit play-time with others, they’ll find their way of doing things. They may be the type that only plays when opportunity strikes, or they might be more assertive.
There is no right path except what suits you.
Whatever journey you’re on, treat it like a brand-new relationship. For many reasons, that is almost exactly what is going on.
Men who propose hotwife or cuckold play to their wives really are asking her to accept a new relationship — and not just with the guys she’s hooking up with, but in her own marriage.
You don’t ask for marriage after 5 minutes chatting, boys.
She needs to be courted. And courting begins with small steps before leading to big steps…
IF you click together.
Truth is your special lady may never warm up to it at all. It might not be her “thing” for a variety of reasons. If that’s so, the worst thing you can do is fall into the belief of the Foolish Man that he can convert her with a good argument.
Just stop it. 🫷
Most women will be a little bit curious if you don’t approach her like a creep or try to force her into things she doesn’t want to do.
The man’s role is to keep pressure off. Keep the stakes low and the risk low. Don’t come at her with the big ask.
Go slow and make small moves. Then build up to bigger moves.
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Til next time!
xoxo
~Bella Blaze 😘
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The best thing is to take care of your wife and never let other men have her - and you will be happy.