It's supposed to be fun not a death spiral that wrecks your life
Too many dudes cannot tell the difference between self-destruction and fun time in the bedroom
Not all suffering is hot and what is hot in suffering isn’t unpleasant…
Travis here.
I’m jumping in for Miss Blaze today with a short one for you about a thing I hate to see happening in the c**kolding kink.
The other day I wrote this in comment…
the kink used to be focused on hot sexy adventures with a good wife being bad. now it seems like 90% of the posts are an excuse for sad self-hating men to be cruel to themselves.
I stand by this 100%
Many of the men out there who talk up how they are into “wife sharing” and “c**kolding” are not even interested in sex.
They hate themselves.
They’re sad and depressed.
They don’t believe they are worthy human beings.
They use the sexual kink as an excuse to punish themselves.
It’s sad to see and I don’t like it.
Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable for everybody involved in having it.
Trav is no dummy. I know (more than most) that the line between pleasure and pain is more illusion than fact. “Make it hurt so good” is more than a classic 80s rock lyric.
I got stories about old flings where the pleasure came from the pain. I’m the last one to give you flak about liking things that seem crazy on the outside.
That said…
There is such a thing as real suffering.
You can do destructive things that harm yourself and those you care about.
There are bad choices. Poor judgment leads to bad calls.
It ain’t all good just because somebody’s horny for it.
A sex positive attitude does not mean that you let sex rule you.
A positive attitude doesn’t mean what feels good.
If you want to be positive to a flower in your garden, you don’t say nice things to it (which you don’t mean anyway because you’re a fake poser).
You water it, pull out weeds that strangle it, make sure it gets enough sunlight, and fertilize the soil.
You’re telling me you can’t treat people better than a plant in the garden?
Your own wife?
What about how you treat yourself?
Look, I want you to enjoy your kinky self.
But your kink is one small part of a big life.
Enjoyment, pleasure, and fun should give back to your life and your partner’s life.
Yeah, you forgot all about the woman in your life while you were busy hating yourself, didn’t you?
You talk all that trash about “her pleasure” and “worshiping her” but you never asked what she wanted, did you?
Too much sex on the brain fries you. It literally blows out your pleasure circuits and destroys your ability to think for yourself.
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Men are lost today.
They don’t have any purpose. There’s no direction in their lives. Most of them aren’t physically active. Sitting in front of a screen, hunched over, eating bad foods and vaping and gooning for 16 hours a day is not healthy.
Living in poor health makes for an unhealthy mind with unhealthy desires.
Listen… if you want your wife or girlfriend or whoever to get busy with other dudes, and I mean that you honestly and sincerely want that…
Go for it!
It can be crazy fun if you’re really in that space in your mind and in that kind of relationship.
Dating or wifing up a chick who is unashamed of her hoe-things can be a thrill ride like no other.
It is NOT for everyone. The thing about a thrill ride is that the fun is all in the fear. You have to own that.
All I’m saying is a lot of dudes are using c**kolding and hotwife stuff as gateways into hardcore self-punishment.
It’s not about sex or excitement or enjoyment anymore, if it ever was.
They’ve fried themselves with electronics and they have so little self-esteem that they are looking for anything to make them feel something.
What can you do about that?
